Win Back Ex Girlfriend Boyfriend Husband Wife - Simply and Quickly

Are you completely sure you want to do this? You can win back ex husbands, girlfriends, wives, boyfriends, whatever it is you lost. All you need is to understand a few psychological phenomena. There are things you can say and things you can do, that stack the odds overwhelmingly in your favor.

First let's discuss your relationship. If your relationship together was for less than 6 months, they might not be intered in a further relationship. Let it go, and find someone else. If you had longer than 6 months together, you can win back an ex with a carefully orchestrated plan.

Here is an important point, your ex does not want to be alone. People are pack animals, and they need acceptance by nature. If they have time invested with you, it is not too late. Life is full of paradoxes, and here is a big one. If you want to win back an ex, you have to pretend you do not want them.

Here is the first step, call your ex and agree with the break up, tell them it was a good idea and for the best. Then do not go further, do not explain, do not elaborate, and whatever you do, do not tell them you want to be friends. They must believe it is totally over in your eyes.

Next item, make no contact for three to four weeks. That means none. No texting, email, asking their friends about them, comments on MySpace,nothing. They will miss you the most at about three weeks. This is when they are the most vulnerable. If your ex contacts you in the three weeks of silence, great. But you must initiate contact for three or four weeks, unless you made a fool of yourself at the beginning, then give it a couple extra weeks.

Now call them and invite them for an innocent rendezvous, like coffee or lunch. Make sure you keep it at a short time limit. You want your ex to know they can escape, no party, family function, etc. When you meet keep it light. Pretend you are meeting an old friend to catch up, keep it simple. With your history together, you know how to make your ex laugh, use that. After three weeks, your ex will have selective memory, and will have forgotten most of your faults and will only remember the good things about you.

Have your ex remember some of the pleasant memories you had together. This is important. You know your ex better than you think, pay attention to HOW they talk, notice the speed, tone and inflection they use. Do they use picture words, sound words, or feeling words? (Like I see (picture) what you're saying. I hear (sound) what you're saying. What your saying feels good (feeling).) Use these same kinds of words back to them in the same pitch, tone, and speed that they do.

Make yourself a mirror to their body movements and language. If they cross their legs, cross yours. If they gesture with their left hand, use your right. But be subtle about it. When you talk, talk at the same rate they are breathing, breathe with them. Once you do this for a couple of minutes, you move and see if they do too. Touch your ear, and see if they touch theirs. If they do, you have built enough rapport to clinch them back into your life.

Take it slow and learn more about human nature, you only have three weeks to learn everything you need to know. Develop a plan and learn all the secret psychological tricks of the trade.